Have You Ever Said Something You Regretted?

Volume 24: Telling it Like it Is - Have You Ever Said Something You Regretted?

This is Emotional Adventures in the Office, where we are committed to addressing real struggles that people face at work. Our approach will vary. Sometimes we will ask questions, other times we will make bold statements. We're always looking for new topics to delve into, so if you have any suggestions, please let us know.

Have You Ever Said Something You Regretted? Everyone has been there. Sometimes we have moments when words just slip out before we can stop them, or our filter seems to be broken. Have you ever wondered why this happens?

When it does, ask yourself these questions:

• Am I trying to impress someone?

• Am I feeling excluded and using this as an attempt to be included?

• Am I feeling hurt and am wanting to hurt someone else back?

Whatever the motivation is, it is critical to remember this: Your words have great value and using them for good instead of evil might make all the difference in the world.

Instead of using words to impress or belittle others, let's focus on our own impact and the impact of our words!

Why do we speak without thinking?

• Seeking Approval: Sometimes we say things to make others like us or think that we are amazing or smart.

• Inclusion: We might say something impulsively to feel like part of a group.

• Emotion: Words can slip out in moments of frustration or anger when we want to hurt someone.

But remember, there is power in thoughtful communication!

Pause, take a breath and choose your words wisely. Reflect before speaking and consider the impact your words might have. It matters because thoughtful words build trust and respect, promote understanding and collaboration and reflect a person's character.

The words you choose reflect who you are and the values you have - they begin to show your values in action. Before you speak, take a moment to think. Are the words you are about to say meant to uplift and encourage? Are they reflective of your true intent?

When you feel hurt, it's easy to strike back with words, but what if you tried a different approach? True healing starts with kindness, compassion and Empathy. Tell us your thoughts in the comments.